Welcome to an Emotionally Mature and Healthy Relationship

Welcome to an emotionally mature and healthy relationship

You are responsible for what you say and don’t say

You are responsible for your healing

You are responsible for your growth

You are responsible for your happiness and unhappiness

You choose to help yourself or not, you choose if you accept help from others or not

You choose how much time you spend with someone

You choose who you spend your time with or not

You choose what to be obligated to or not

You choose to express your emotions or not

You choose your relationships and the people you spend time with

You are free to be yourself .  You are authentic, not being or pretending to be someone else “to be liked”

You know and respect your boundaries

You communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully

You communicate honestly and genuinely

You respect yourself, your time, and your space, therefore, you respect others, their time and their space as well.

You own your mistakes, and have the courage to say “I am Sorry” (and mean it of course) when necessary.

You know that you are not perfect.  You know no human is perfect. Therefore, you understand that you and everyone else are learning in their own life journey and in their own time.

We have been used to and conditioned to dysfunctional relationships (All types).

Where the behaviour of Co dependence and lack of personal responsibility have been seen (and taught) as “normal” and even called “real” or “love” in relationships.  Confusing love with possessiveness, control and emotional manipulation games, compromising your truths and your values “for the other” , co-dependency (yes again), putting the responsibility of our happiness on others, therefore losing our power and self.

A complete mess !

Emotional maturity (intelligence) has nothing to do with biological age.  Everybody has their own timing on learning things, specially when it comes to the emotional reality.

We need to look at our past to understand our present .  We need to learn form our past experiences to understand our present and create something healthier for the present / future.

We cannot turn our backs to those unpleasant experiences from the past and think that they are over, just because time passed… That will not solve anything.  We cannot just repress our unpleasant experiences from the past to feel like we are mature now or different.  That we have grown because we are biologically older or because we have a child or a company (or more things and labels).

Having those things might force you to grow up emotionally, they might help you to see the things you still need to heal and look at, but only the individual can choose if they use it for their learning and emotional maturity or not.

Your power is in your hands

Your happiness is in your hands

Your freedom is in your hands

Your healing is in your hands

Your personal and spiritual growth are in your hands

You choose what to do with yourself and your life.  You choose if to receive the help that you need from others when needed to help yourself, or not.

You choose to change your reality or not. 

None of these is easy.  It may sound easy as I say “you choose” but it is not. 

But then again

you choose either the easy way or the one that will make you grow, expand, evolve and create something better, healthier and more beautiful for you and the world…

It’s up to you!

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NOTE:  When I speak of relationships, I refer to ALL relationships ( I don’t only mean “romantic”)  Relationships are with every single person we know in our life.

You are not alone when you choose the road of consciousness, healing and growth, it may feel like that but you are not. The right support and help is out there and within yourself when your desire is genuine.