Changing Perspectives

When an uncomfortable feeling arises

When a challenge is presented in front of you 

When you realize there is a conflict with someone 

in your life 

When you feel there is an obstacle in your way. 

Are all opportunities for learning, they are all opportunities for growth. 

They are all opportunities to find different (and new) ways to approach a situation, a feeling, a challenge. 

That is when we have the opportunity to step into a different, more emotionally mature, and new version of ourselves, if we choose to learn from what life is putting in front of us in that moment. 

We can choose to learn a grow from the challenge. 

Or we can choose to go back to the safe, already known patterns from the past, thus repeating the same cycles and stories, and to not grow and change into a healthier Self.

The problem that a lot of people face when these new challenges come, is the unwillingness of stepping out of the known, comfortable, safe and familiar ways, even when those ways are not supportive and/or healthy anymore .

A lot of the times this happens because the person doesn't know what else to do, and they do not look for help. Sometimes they don't know, or don't believe that there is actually other people who can help them go through that new challenge in a healthier way, or that there are new and unknown ways that will work better for them.

Depending on the challenge, you can always find different (and/or new) ways by looking into different sources, different teachers, different practices, different therapy, different books, different people ... 

You cannot learn anything new and grow from a new challenge if you are responding to it in the same way as in the past. In the same way as "you have always done it".

So many people stay trapped in this cycle for many years, and sometimes the solution is as simple as being humble enough to look for a different type of help. 

Accepting that you need help is not being weak, this is another very harmful collective believe... Especially when it comes to your mental and emotional health. 

It will always be more costly to wait and postpone the need for emotional and mental health support, than taking care of it as soon as you notice something is really Off or simply not working anymore, as it used to before.

The hard reality is that most people still postpone these things, as if it is a "secondary thing"… only for it to get worse with time.

What happens when we leave a physical wound open with no care, no cleaning, no covering it… it is highly possible for it to get infected… and even after that, what happens if we still do not take care of it??

Emotional and mental “issues” behave the same way… They will get worse as time passes if we do not pay attention and take care of them… Time alone will not take care of the emotional wound or the unhealed trauma.

There are many ways that we can start looking into these uncomfortable feelings or situations, maybe fears that we haven’t had the courage to face…

The most important step is to acknowledge it.  Once you simply look at it and acknowledge the fear / the pain / the uncomfortable “thing” / the relationship problem / the decision you have been avoiding to make… etc… You have already done SOOO MUCH, you have done soooo much progress just by getting to that acknowledgment and acceptance of “that” being there. And seeing the fear or resistance that you might have about it.  

That implies a readiness for and willingness to change.  It is the seed of possibility. Which now you can water, pay attention to, and take care of if you choose to keep going to see what is in the other side of the fear and the pain.

That is the moment when you look for those different types of help and support.  Different (and / or new) ways, teachers, books, therapies, practices, and step out of the known and repetitive ways you have had in the past that were not supporting you anymore..

That is the moment when you get the help.  That moment is so full of potential.  It is like an open fertile and rich soil ready to grow a beautiful garden.  An unique garden that only you can birth.

A garden that you have only seen in your dreams, a garden that you still cannot believe can exist… because you are not there yet.  But you have what it takes, and you have the potential.

None of these things are easy.  Inner work, inner growth, self discovery and self healing.  But they are absolutely worth it, and you will never regret that you stepped into it and kept going in spite of the fear...

Love & Light,

-E.Y.P